What it’s like being a successful female biz owner with diagnosed ADD + ADHD

Ladies…

It is no easy task, to stay on task. RIGHT!?

I didn’t know how much harder and yet easier things would get after having a kid.

On one hand, your schedule is not your own. You are a slave to your house during nap time and your previous life of just leaving on a whim, disappears.

On the other hand, you learn how to get 1,200 things done in less than that two hour nap time.

I’m actually writing during his nap time right now and I have a list of like 10 tasks I need to finish for my business, but I thrive under pressure and they don’t need to be done for four days.

Let me share with you the task list of a successful biz owner with no team (yet).

  • Creating PowerPoints for Break Free Mastermind training.
  • Writing a book
  • Finishing a product so my graphic designer can start creating the look
  • paying Costco, Amazon and regular credit card
  • Enrolling early birds into the Activate your Gifts Retreat (the planning process hasn’t even begun yet and we’re less than 3 months away)
  • Sending session notes to private clients
  • Creating a 5 day challenge with free guides and an opt in page
  • Sending welcome letters to retreaters
  • Trying to figure out what I can automate
  • Social media for my second Instagram account “In My Sweats” named after my podcast
  • Recording a new podcast

I told my Fearful to Fit Fam that I’d be taking them on the journey with me. I wanted to show more behind the scenes of the unglam life of owning a biz and really doing 20% coaching and 80% biz.

In the last three years I went from $1,000 – $3,000 per month and now I’m averaging over $14,000 per month.

This is why I’m letting you in on the not so pretty. The 12-14 hour work days and why I wouldn’t want to do anything else, but this.

So, what’s it like owning a biz with two learning disabilities?

I use them to fire me up.

Having ADD and ADHD means I can do A LOT at one time. Like a scatter brained mongoose on the loose. She’s crossing her t’s and dotting her i’s but it’s more of a round about way then the rest of them.

I finish everything I start.

That wasn’t the case a few years ago. It’s a muscle I’ve had to grow and it pays off immensely.

I’m also more committed to plans than I ever have been.

Another muscle.

I’m a deep feeler, like so many of us ADD women.

And when I don’t feel my peppiest, I don’t want to be around people.

If I’m already zapped, I don’t want to be more zapped.

BUT if I constantly go with my feelings, I’d never leave the house!

So, I’m pretty good now…***instantly flashed to my toddler not sleeping and me canceling all my plans.***

Here are the best ways I know how to cope with a very active, excited mind:

Write it down. Whatever it is. Write that shit down. An idea? A grocery item? A bill you have to pay?

Say it out loud. Tell someone your idea and see how they respond. Are they like, “OOOooooooooo” or “oh?”

Walk outside or on the treadmill. THIS IS KEY to moving stuck energy around. I do jumping jacks and jump up and down before I give a master class to hype myself up.

Take deep breaths before doing a Facebook Live. I do this to calm my nerves. Some days I don’t want to be seen, I want to hide in my house under the comfiest blanket ever, but I don’t. Wanting vs. doing = two very different things

Turn the music on. When you feel stuck or stagnant – pump that shit up and start a family dance party or even party of one.

I took meds for ADD for four years and it royally screwed me up. I cut out sugar, gluten and dairy a long time ago and it helped immensely. I drink green juices and smoothies for energy and clearing the foggy head. I love basil and herbs and use them to heighten the taste of food – and they are epstein barr killers (I have it) so I use natural herbs to kill the pathogens.

I stay away from caffeine. It makes me panicky and sweaty.

I drink tons of water.

But these things don’t work for everybody. I developed a blueprint for my diagnosis and help other female biz owners do the same with their diagnosis.

Schedule your breakthrough call, so you can stop guessing your protocol. Talk to an expert. Someone who’s been in your shoes and knows how to get you from point A to point B without 15 detours.

Why I named my podcast, “In My Sweats”

 

Too excited to read and want to go listen? Head to iTunes or go here: https://inmysweats.podbean.com/

 

So, you might be wondering why I named my podcast, “In My Sweats.”

 

I worked with my podcast coach on the title and found myself trying to be someone I wasn’t. My initial idea was to name it FIERCE. But it felt too domineering for my style and WAY TOO in your face.

 

Then I wanted to name it, NO SMALL TALK. But felt like that was weird and sad.

 

For a little while I liked, “I CAN’T FAKE LAUGH,” which is true, but what the hell does that show offer? Nothing. I felt like I could hear a needle drop.

 

They were all trying too hard to be clever and I could see right through my own bullshit. When I looked deep within and cleared away all the crap, I imagined myself in my basement working in my sweats.

 

I like people to feel comfortable.

 

I have 5,000+ pairs of sweats (okay, more like 10), but still…

 

I wanted to interview people who didn’t have to get ready before we talk, because ya, I might be interviewing someone, but really we’re just having a conversation about life.

 

This is my first creative leap for literally THE HELL OF IT. There I said it. This podcast’s only intention was to invite people to feel at home while they listen. Maybe nod your head or exclaim, “ME TOO,” while driving. I wanted to talk to Mama’s who didn’t have the picture perfect birth and took the road less traveled. I wanted to talk to real people who share the good, the bad and the wtf.

 

I really want you to listen and see if you can feel at home with us, so if you wouldn’t mind…hit that subscribe button and if you feel it deserves 5 stars, LAY IT ON ME.

 

Make sure you’re in your sweats while listening: https://inmysweats.podbean.com/

When you consume sugar, you live a rollercoaster life

I know…

Blanket statement, right?

From my experience, both personally + professionally, it’s true. When you consume sugar, you’re more likely to be in rollercoaster relationships and emotions.

What would happen if you removed sugar from your life?

  • Imagine feeling satiated the whole day, so you’re not reaching for sugar when it’s 3pm and sugary treats don’t even sound good anymore.
  • Imagine being in a romantic relationship that is stable and doesn’t have extreme highs and lows.
  • Imagine waking up feeling rested, knowing your body is satiated on a nutrient level.

This is what happens when you stop eating candy, cookies, sugary beverages, sugary salad dressings, sugar hides in everything!

Listen, I didn’t eat a piece of fruit for 7 years because I was so scared to eat SUGAR. In 2009, I returned home from spending 8 months in SE Asia where I contracted parasites.

I stopped eating sugar cold turkey.

Some of my private clients have had parasites, SIBO, Leaky Gut, IBS, etc. but have not eliminated sugar. This is where I suggest starting: I want you to spend 14 days without sugar.

Some clients have NEVER had gut issues or food allergies, but experience headaches, bloating and fatigue – these women also feel unfulfilled in their romantic relationships, the ups and the downs.

I was someone who LOVED sugar…nothing was rich or sweet enough. That is definitely not the case anymore.

I was also addicted to relationships that were explosive and passion – filled.

While crushing the sugar, I also had out of control ADD – I went from a 2.5 GPA to a 4.0 when I started ADD meds.

I wanted off after 4 years of taking, so I got off but didn’t know how to holistically help my symptoms, removing sugar was MASSIVELY healing.

So, if you need any other reason to say ta ta to sugar, read more here.